"In The Meantime" again.... maybe I never left....

Reading "In The Meantime" by Iyanla Vanzant, again... I mean I pick it up from time to time for affirmations, for a boost in my decision making, and for some edification. But I think I need a refresher course with Iyanla herself, 'cause I aint getting it! Iyanla says not to say stuff like that but the truth is I really am missing some things that will put it all in perspective, so i can have that "Ah ha" moment....

I was re-reading some parts this morning and here's what hit me....

pg. 25,26

" ...Neither life nor love requires us to give up our dignity, self-worth, career objectives, favorite television program, or our good common sense. For some reason, we don't always understand this. We believe in the necessity of giving up one thing in order to get something else. We do not understand that the highest expression of love is the experience and realization of more-more of who you are, what you do, what you believe, and what you have. love has the ability to bring all of you together under one roof, at one time, as one experience. Love is the experience of oneness, a union of the mind and heart. Unfortunately, we believe we can establish this union with others only if we give up something. We attempt to create this union with others before first creating it within ourselves. This is absolutely impossible. You can not get love from the outside until you are love on the inside. In the meantime, we do many things in the name of love, for the sake of love...."

pg. 34

" ...When things are at the least tolerable in a relationship, we believe that hiding, avoiding, denying, and resisting are the right thing to do. We think we are saving someone we love fron pain and suffering. The truth is, we are suffering! We are choking on our words! Suffocating our feelings! Twisting out truth! Banging our heads against a brick wall and oicking on ourselves-- Why?!!! Why?!! Why can't I get this love stuff right?! Picking on ourselves is the height of meantime behavior, and its this behavior that will make you say or do something you really dont want to do- just like they did." (this is where I was/am)

pg. 36

"... The truth of the matter is, if you are willing to go through the process of fighting, being mean, getting hurt, and realizing there's got to be a better way! you will eventually shift out of your pattern into a state of consciousness where you will be healed."


Like I said before, still waiting on my healing...